We tell ourselves a lot of things whether they are true or not. Tell me, does this sound familiar?
“I want to start my own business but I would be soooo embarrassed if it wasn’t successful”
“People would totally see me as a failure and laugh at me”
“I don’t have what it takes to run a business”
“Who do I think I am? I’m no expert. I would totally fail”
If you can relate to any of these statements or anything closely related to these sayings, then this post is for you.
I can totally relate to you if you’re feeling a bit apprehensive about starting your business. Those feelings of self-doubt can really be a fun-snatcher. When you look at it, it’s actually pretty funny what we allow to hold us back.
WHAT IS SELF-DOUBT?
Self-doubt has been quite easily defined as the lack of confidence in oneself and one’s ability. I’m sure you’re familiar with it as we have all experienced it at some time in our life when we didn’t think we were able to do something.
Maybe you thought you couldn’t live without someone after a break-up, you couldn’t live alone when renting your first apartment by yourself, or maybe you’ve felt that pit in your stomach when taking a test that you knew you wouldn’t pass.
We’ve all been there and that’s what self-doubt is for each of us. That’s the same thing that we allow to happen to us in business.
We know that we if we have a passion, a purpose and a plan, we can do anything we want but we still somehow talk ourselves out of a lot of great things. But in this case, we are going to discuss the worst reasons we talk ourselves out or procrastinate in starting a business.
1. WE CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK
First off, let me take the liberty to say, who cares what they think? Seriously!
So what if they think your idea sucks or you won’t make it. Think about the actual person that will probably think that way about you. Now think, what are they doing with their life?
I recently posted a quote on my Instagram saying “no matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you’re still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying”.
I’m sure that quote will relate to the person or people you think will judge you, or think negatively about you.
Also, you should think about how valid your thoughts are to the person or people you are placing the negative reactions.
Could you be just thinking they will respond in a certain manner when in actuality they support you and it’s all in your head?
Either way, this is one of the worst fears that we allow to hold us back from doing what we love, and starting or growing our business.
2. WE ARE AFRAID OF NOT BEING AN EXPERT
I’m not sure of your definition of an expert but I do know that even an expert doesn’t know everything. Now granted they may know a lot about a particular subject, but they don’t know everything.
I have a couple of Bachelor’s degrees and even a Master’s degree but there are still things that I learn all the time.
I pride myself on my ability to be flexible and always looking for ways to increase my knowledge.
All good leaders (as the owner of your business, you are a leader) know that they won’t know everything, that’s why they hire a strong team to collectively add value to the business.
I say all that for you to understand that it’s okay not to know everything and you shouldn’t. Know what you know and go from there.
Whether it’s DIY projects, coaching, or graphic designs, take pride in knowing that because you are the expert in that area and continue to learn.
The road to success won’t be a smooth path. The bumps along the way will help increase your knowledge and aid in growing your business.
Don’t allow what you think you don’t know hold you back from getting started. Which transition into the last fear that is the worst.
3. WE ARE AFRAID OF NOT BEING SUCCESSFUL
This is one we put on ourselves. We determine our own success, not anyone else. If success to you is a mansion with 4 luxury cars, and acres of land, then yes, that might not happen overnight but who’s to say you won’t get there?
Success is determined by you and no one else. You starting a business and gaining a business license can be success but that’s one goal you completed.
Success is what you make it!